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The Emptiness Process

The Emptiness Process is meant to work with emptiness and pits, two common challenges coming from traumatic experiences. Emptiness and pits often arrive from the blows of emotional abandonment, alienation, love loss, and rejection. Emptiness, fully experienced, is a doorway to completeness, love, and wholeness--essential beingness. Emptiness provides many valuable learnings and emotional information. This so-called void is essence turned inside out.

 

Dedicated to all those folks out there who have yet to experience that their deepest wounds are also their greatest treasures. Love and wholeness reside where only a void was thought to be.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Warning: Folks with a history of mental illness, PTSD, or panic are urged not to use these techniques without a therapist. If you decide to do these processes you will agree to absolve the webmaster, the webhost, Emoclear.com, and Steve Mensing of any responsibility for the application or misapplication of these processes. There is always in any process the possibility that someone could experience some discomfort.



The Emptiness Process

(1) Breathe through you left nostril only, place your palm across your lower forehead/eyebrows, and place your opposite palm over your heartbeat: Take your right hand and gently pinch your right nostril closed with your right thumb and breathe only through your left nostril for 15 cycles of deep inhalations and exhalations. Do this at a moderate and comfortable pace. When you complete the 15 cycles, remove your hand and gently place your right palm and fingers across your lower forehead and eyebrows. The karate base of your hand should be touching the bridge of your nose. Your fingers will point toward your ears. Place your left palm on your heartbeat region. You will keep your palms in this position for the remainder of this exercise. Go to step (2).

ATTENTION: Your emptiness/pit may integrate spontaneously during any of the steps. This isn't a problem. You'll notice your emptiness/pit no longer has any emotional charge. You may notice a subtle felt shift in your body

(2) Scan your torso for any sensations of emptiness/pits, fully feel the emptiness/pit sensations, and allow them to be there without trying to get rid of them or keep them: Scan your body for any sensations of emptiness or pits. When one draws your attention, remain there and fully feel that sensation. Allow that sensation to be there with no intention of getting rid of it or keeping it. Go to step (3).

(3) Allow the emptiness or pit sensations to grow to maximum intensity: Give the emptiness or pit sensations your complete attention. Allow those sensations to grow to fullest intensity. You can breathe into your emptiness or pit sensations. When your sensations are at maximum intensity, go to step (4).

(4) Place your attention on the outer edges of your emptiness/pit while you relax your tongue and breathe into the emptiness/pit. Allow your awareness to flow into the emptiness/pit or merge with it. Place your attention on the outer edges of your emptiness. Keep your attention on the outer edges of the emptiness/pit while you relax your tongue and breathe into the emptiness/pit. Allow your awareness to flow into or merge with the emptiness/pit.

 

**Some folks may experience some brief anxiety while still outside the emptiness/pit. Fully feel the anxiety and allow it to be there with no intention of getting rid of it or keeping it.** When your awareness makes the full passage into or merger with the emptiness/pit, the emptiness will transform into peacefulness, fullness, love, wholeness, or completeness depending on the emptiness's origin. Give yourself time for this passage to occur--allow it to happen. Don't hurry it or push it. A sense of utter calm and stillness appears. Enjoy this essence state before you move to the next step (5).

(5) Watch the screen of your awareness and notice any scenes or reveries that appear. Allow the scenes or reveries to run from start to conclusion: With your eyes closed, watch the screen of your awareness and notice any scenes that begin to appear. Allow those scenes to be there and experience them without any intention of getting rid of them or keeping them. Permit the scenes to run from start to finish. Allow them to repeat if they desire. These scenes may be turn into dreams--that's okay. Just watch them and allow them to be there. Common themes might be:

*Being emotionally abandoned.
*Losing an important love relationship.
*Someone important passing out of our lives.
*Being alone.
*Feeling like an outsider or being left out.
*Being rejected by an important other or group.
*People coming and going in our lives.
*Being emotionally deprived or forgotten.

When the scenes have concluded, go to step (6).


(6) Enjoy the immersion in your essence state. When a sense of conclusion appears, return your attention fully to your body and begin to ground yourself: Give yourself time to enjoy your essence state. When a sense of conclusion arrives, bring your attention fully to your body and begin to re-ground yourself. You may use the Grounding Exercise or simply return to the present and spend time fully feeling your entire body and becoming re-oriented.



The Emptiness Process, in a nutshell:

(1) Breathe through you left nostril only, place your palm across your lower forehead/eyebrows, and place your opposite palm over your heartbeat.

(2) Scan your torso for any sensations of emptiness/pits, fully feel the emptiness/pit sensations, and allow them to be there without trying to get rid of them or keep them.

(3) Allow the emptiness or pit sensations to grow to maximum intensity.

(4) Place your attention on the outer edges of your emptiness/pit while you relax your tongue and breathe into the emptiness/pit. Allow your awareness to flow into the emptiness/pit or merge with it.

(5) Watch the screen of your awareness and notice any scenes or reveries that appear. Allow the scenes or reveries to run from start to conclusion.

(6) Enjoy the immersion in your essence state. When a sense of conclusion appears, return your attention fully to your body and begin to ground yourself.


Tips on the Emptiness Process

*You may want to ask what intuitive knowings does the essence have? While absorbed in or merged with the essence, ask the emptiness these intuitive questions and patiently wait for a felt knowing answer:


Emptiness, what would you like to say?
Emptiness, what are you doing in my life my life?
Emptiness, what would you like me to notice?
Emptiness, what can you teach me?
Emptiness, what do I want?
Emptiness what do you want me to do?
Emptiness is there something else I should know?


Allow your emptiness to answer intuitively. Be patient with your emptiness and thank it when it is done answering. The felt knowing is like driving a car and knowing when to brake, speed up, slow down, or turn. You know what to do intuitively without thinking.

Just await the murky knowing. If you translate this murky knowing into sentences, you can jot them down on paper. But just getting the murky knowing is enough. That your unconscious knows is enough.

In integrating emptiness/pits several key items occur:

*Making full contact with the emptiness/pits. This means really feeling it without thinking. Full feeling means no or very little competing thoughts. No being distracted by other sensations, feelings, random thoughts. We're talking about being fully absorbed in the emptiness here.

*The No Intention Intention. This means we fully feel our emptiness with no intention of getting rid of it or keeping it. This leads to acceptance or even love. Keep in mind that most feelings are biological messages that do us good service even though they may bring discomfort at times in their attempts to get our attention. They all are valuable. Learning to appreciate their value assists greatly in our natural process of integration. It also develops long-term comfort with a full range of our feelings. The No Intention Intention naturally installs itself though working with Emoclear integrators and processes.

*Calling emptiness/pits "unwanted" is resistance. If we're intending to get rid of feelings or we're negatively putting them down, that will create resistance and block natural integration. Calling our emptiness "unwanted" points back to our intentions here. So any way you can have the intention of allowing feelings and not trying to keep feelings will greatly assist your natural ability to feel and integrate.

*Deeper acceptance is not a thought. It is a sense of what ever is going on is acceptable, okay, perhaps even loveable. Notice how acceptance arrives and goes. It is a natural sense of things. It flows from us like essence based love. This acceptance leaves us with a sense there's an okayness in what we're feeling. So acceptance is part of the unsticking process. Essence based love also does this. Acceptance is part of our spontaneous nature. It flows best when we really allow ourselves to feel something with no intention of getting rid of it or keeping it. 

If you're fully feeling a feeling, have no intentions of getting rid of it or keeping it, taking that "just back" or dis-identified position, getting those sensations knowing, allowing acceptance or love to flow--you can count on your feelings, emotions, sensations, and moods to do their thing and integrate.

*Develop your appreciation for feelings by starting to notice all the good things they do. For starters they are valuable information and sometimes lessons.

*Hydrate yourself prior to working with the Emptiness Process.

*Placing a palm over your heartbeat region during the process amplifies feelings and connects you with the heart's 10,000 neuron sub-cortical center. It helps keep people from dissociating with very strong feelings. It increases intuition and suppresses resistance.

*Breathing into the heartbeat suppresses resistance and has calming effects.

*Placing your palm over your lower forehead and eyebrows appears to alter blood flow in the frontal brain and leads to less resistance and cooler thoughts and feelings.

*Learn each step of the Emptiness Process separately before you put all the 6 steps together.

*To measure your level of resistance/acceptance, use the scale by clicking here
here or navigating to the Measure Your Progress page. 




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